This article was written by M.Farouk Radwan The founder of www.2knowmyself.com a website that got 10,000,000 Visits so far
Why do some people panic when they approach new people and why do some of them feel anxious around strangers?
I am sure that you tried more than once to speak to a stranger or to approach someone yet felt anxious and afraid. Most people want to be outgoing and outspoken but sometimes they fail to maintain their confident state as soon as they encounter approach others.
You might be wondering why you sometimes speak with confidence with some people and feel afraid while approaching others.
As soon as you meet strangers two things happen, you will first load the beliefs you have about yourself and then watch for their feedback.
If you believed that you aren't worthy but was treated well then your anxiety will disappear while if you got bad treatment then this will remind you of your false beliefs about yourself and you will feel more anxious.
In short people feel confident as long as nothing reminds them of their false beliefs and they feel anxious when these false beliefs come into their attention.
People make conclusions about the world with a bias towards their own internal beliefs and that’s why people who think of themselves negatively will incorrectly interpret the signals sent to them by others then feel bad.
A research found that people with negative beliefs about themselves interpret neutral facial expressions negatively and so reinforce these beliefs they hold.
Confident people on the other hand don’t feel anxious around others because they don’t think negatively of themselves and even if they were rejected they attribute the rejection to other factors.
Another factor that ads to the fear of approaching people is the lack of social skills. If you don’t know how to start to conversation or if you don't know how to find the right words to say while talking to someone then there is a big possibility that you will feel very anxious.
So to sum this all, the reasons you might be afraid of approaching people are:
If you managed to get rid of these false beliefs nothing will remind you of them while being with people and you will feel relaxed instead of feeling anxious.
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